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Tired of sex? 11 ways to keep sex passion

Losing passion for someone too close is almost a curse, and no one seems to be immune. Esther perel, a Ted speaker, said: "People have two requirements for intimacy, security and freshness." Simply put, it is companionship and sexual desire.

When we are in love, each of us yearns for the other person to accompany us all the time, giving us a sense of stability and security, and at the same time we long for life to be always full of excitement and adventure, and that there will always be new tricks and surprises in our sex life.

But frustratingly, acquiring both needs in the same person is contradictory. As we become more and more familiar with a person, as the person gives us more and more stability, comfort, and safety, our sense of novelty and excitement gradually decreases. What Makes Us Sexually Desires? That is the unknown, the novel, the adventurous. Sexual arousal also decreases when we have "left to right" with our partner.

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So what moments make us sexually active with our partners? Esther's research pointed out that when there is space between the other party and us, when we lose the sense of security and control over the other party, our sexual desire will be awakened again.

A familiar example is the tendency for two people to rekindle their passion after a brief separation. When your partner is a singer, the moment he/she sings on stage, he/she becomes a rock star who has a sense of distance from you, and this strange novelty at this time will stimulate sexual desire; another example, one day You go to your partner's friend to find her at a dinner party. She is wearing a red dress that you have never seen before. She chats and laughs with her friends. Her temperament is completely different from before, and she becomes the focus of the audience. At this time, It is easy to arouse your sexual interest by this novelty and loss of control feel.

Faced with the dual problem of the contradiction between security and sexual desire, a more extreme solution is to have an outgoing relationship. But the vast majority of couples still can’t accept an outgoing relationship, so should they silently endure a mediocre intimacy without passion? No!.

Popular sentiment magazines often say: Relationships need to be managed. Sexual relationships also need to be managed. Passion does not fall from the sky, but it can be created artificially.

Today, I will provide you with some small ways to maintain the passion of the relationship. Of course, it is not applicable to everyone, and this is not the way to go all the way. The main thing is to give you some inspiration. It is recommended that you communicate with each other. Exchange some small ideas on the bed, maybe you can have unexpected gains~

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The most important point is to see whether each other is interested in this relationship and whether they want to add passion to the relationship, otherwise even if one person tries hard, it will be futile. So, spend more time and attention on each other~

  1. Be more emotionally open

Be more open emotionally and embrace all possibilities so that your intimacy will be warm and friendly, and there will be possibilities for creative love passions. Old-fashioned, rigid emotional attitudes cannot bring passion.

  1. Only show sexual interest to him/her

A slender lady in life and a slutty bitch on the bed is a good sex relationship! In the space of two people, don't be restrained, show your lover what others can't see, and try to seduce him/her as much as possible!

  1. Don't miss any opportunity

In the woods at night, in the dark cinema, watching TV lazily on the sofa... What if you suddenly have sex? Don't miss every opportunity, after all, there are not many such moments, let go of everything in your hand and enjoy the moment.

  1. Tell your lover about your sexual fantasies

You are already in a long-term and stable intimate relationship. If you have any sexual fantasies that you were embarrassed to admit before, just say it! The brain is the best hormonal controller, and maintaining imagination during sex is very important.

As you often see in movies, cosplay is a quintessential sexual fantasy. The novelty of a familiar partner acting as a complete stranger can lead to sexual desire, and even though it is the same person in the relationship, the desire for adventure and curiosity within us will awaken and give us great satisfaction in the process.

  1. Create a comfortable bedroom environment

Some couples' bedrooms are really incapable of having sex. Pack it up, set it up a little more emotionally, then prepare some scented candles, and music that makes people want to make love. These are all ways to create passion.

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  1. More tricks in foreplay

Every time sex is the same process, the foreplay that ends in three minutes is as boring as reciting the text, how can you expect him/her to have sexual desire? If you don't know what fun ways to play foreplay, you might as well read IFONNX "83 sexy ideas to Spice Up the Bedroom", it will give you more inspiration on flirting.

  1. Change to an unfamiliar location

For everyone, the bedroom is the most familiar environment, in fact, it is not easy to generate passion in a familiar environment, so an easy way is to change the location, such as the living room, bathroom, or even the kitchen, the wild, in the car, or overnight in a hotel outside. In short, leaving the familiar environment and changing it occasionally can also bring unexpected passion.

  1. Take turns serving each other

Usually, sex is enjoyed by both partners at the same time, but sometimes you can take turns serving just the other. When you serve him/her, give all your attention to him/her and serve wholeheartedly. When you are being served, relax completely and enjoy his/her service.

  1. Create surprises

For example, when he/she comes back from a business trip, or on birthdays, anniversaries, etc., you can prepare an unexpected surprise for him/her without telling him/her in advance, such as preparing a set of sexy erotic underwear, or buying an egg vibrator from IFONNX, add surprises to your sex life.

  1. Give him/her a separate space

Many lovers are always inseparable after falling in love. It is very important to draw a clear line, give space, and properly separate for the maintenance of passion in the relationship. He/she likes football, but you don't know anything about it. It doesn't mean that you have to follow your partner when you go to play football. If you are not interested in football at all, give your partner and yourself some space! A good idea is that you and your friends also do things that interest you, such as going to shows. When you get home, he/she wears a jersey and holds the football home, and meets you who just came back from the show with a blushing face. That's how the passion comes.

  1. Communicate with him/her more

The last point is also very important. Although many couples have sex, they never talk about sex after they put on their clothes. Turning off the lights is like a blind man touching an elephant. Where is the passion? If sex is a world map, then the ends of the earth in it all require you to go backpacking and explore together. Without the courage and love to explore together, it's not surprising to struggle in the world of sex.

 

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