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How women Should Treat Couples' Sex Toys

Last week I had a weekly get-together with a few old friends. This time there is a new member to join - Olivia's niece Pety, a 22-year-old beauty. (I don't know why she wants to join the party of our 40-year-old auntie...)

"I heard that you guys talk about erotic topics every week...hehe..." Pety shyly ordered a cup of milk tea.

(So she joined us to learn about pornography...)

"I have a problem recently... I'm very troubled, and I don't know how to tell him... My boyfriend seems to prefer playing with sex toys..." After drinking a glass of wine, the little girl seemed to be more relaxed and began to throw A somewhat sensitive topic. "I once went on a business trip and ended my work a day early. Although I didn't find a third person when I came home early... I saw him playing with an airplane cup... Ah... I just wanted to find a hole in the ground to get in!"

Our three "old aunts" exchanged glances, "Do you think he cheated on you by having sex with sex toys?"

"I also know that in this open era, it seems like I'm being conservative... but I'm really uncomfortable."

"I understand you..." I patted Pety on the shoulder, "It's normal for women to have some hygienic sex, feel ashamed, or be replaced. After all, we may have been influenced by this from our parents... …”

"The lecture has begun..." Lily pulled the small stool closer to me, as if waiting for the lecture.

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Why do you feel offended by your partner playing with sex toys?

In the traditional concept, people often associate "sex toys" with "perverted pornography", and always feel that people who use sex toys are either overproduced by hormones and addicted to sex, or have bold sexual fetishes and behave abnormally. In short, Even being "frigid" is more respectable than playing with a sex toy.

There were even news reports that the wife found out that her husband who had been married for more than ten years had hidden secret sex toys, and she could not accept this and asked for a divorce.

When it comes to the pleasures of sex, many women feel more or less shy and hard to say.

This comes from parental marriage and sex education for girls in the social environment. Think of this scene from everyone's childhood: whenever there is a kissing or sex scene on TV, you are always blindfolded or told you should be ashamed of sex!

These sex educations may lead to our lack of confidence in our bodies, our rejection of "sex", and our inability to freely express our normal sexual needs and desires in adulthood. At the same time, you will firmly believe that women who are indulging in sex, or even women eager to satisfy themselves with sex toys, are slutty prostitutes, and this terrible uncontrolled desire is shameful (because that's how we are taught).

We will also take it for granted that our partners, the men, will also dislike such women. In the same way, men who use sex toys are not gentlemen, and they mean "extramarital affairs" more or less.

But unfortunately, men may think very differently from us.

This is related to the biological nature of human beings. Under the ancient system of polygamy, the main purpose of women's "sex" was to reproduce human beings, and loyalty to men was also the ultimate requirement for women for a long time.

In order to maximize the reproduction of their genes, men will show their "sexual ability", make more sex, attract more females, and talk and use "sex" without any scruples. Therefore, the use of sex toys to make themselves feel better and satisfied seems to be not only innocent, but also a reasonable thing for men.

However, in the hearts of women, does it really matter that "sex cannot bring a strong orgasm"?

Not really...

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Women actually love "sex toys" in their hearts

The reality is that more and more women crave more pleasure and secretly "take this step".

According to the "2020 Global Sex Toys Market Research Report" released by France, when the COVID-19 virus was rampant, the global sex toys market was estimated at US$24.5 billion, of which France accounted for 38.92%, which has grown rapidly in recent years.

Among so many love toys, the best-selling and most popular is the dildo, which accounts for 25% of the market. (Of course, this is not only the credit of women, but also the efforts of sisters)

Looking at the market data in the United States, according to Amazon statistics, in the first half of 2020, American sex toys increased by about 30% year-on-year, which is equivalent to purchasing 44 condoms and 2 boxes of contraceptives per capita (wow~). At the same time, what is even more surprising is that the consumption of women's egg vibrators, erotic underwear and other sex toys has increased by more than 50% in 2020.

Statistics show that in recent years, the sales of female toys have surpassed the sales of male toys. It can be seen that more and more women are indeed trying to listen more to their needs and desires, and learn to please themselves better, rather than just making themselves the supporting role of "men's orgasm".

As a "toy", there is no difference between "harmful" and "harmless" by sex toys themselves, the focus is on how we use and view them as adults.

A survey by a research institute in the United States found that more than half of American women still use sex toys such as vibrators after marriage. Compared with women who never used these toys, women who kept using them not only had a better experience with sex, but also maintained a longer sexual desire after marriage, a wetter and happier sex life, a stronger marriage, and even It also has an auxiliary role in relieving cardiovascular and cerebrovascular problems, depression, anxiety and other psychological problems. (Sex, really is the secret to living longer)

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How should we view each other's sex toys?

Pety sees her boyfriend secretly using sex toys, maybe she's not angry with the aircraft cup, but can't stand her boyfriend not telling her. She felt aggrieved that she didn't know her boyfriend was secretly using sex toys, and even recalled a time when they didn't trust each other.

The real problem is not the sex toys, but the relationship.

The relationship between lovers consists of two parts: "closeness" and "sweetness". Only by completing enough "closeness" - communication and sharing, can we better find each other's "borders", get real feedback, and achieve harmony life.

If your partner engages in any unpleasant behavior, whether it's secretly "playing" with something or scaring you by suddenly pulling out an "ugly" sex toy, you should tell your partner how you feel, look for A more fun way to get along with each other.

Just like we talked about in the topic "Long-term single partners do cause frigidity and sexual boredom". For both men and women, sexual pleasure and satisfaction are somewhat like "children eating."

Children always eat at home, and they will start to think that other classmates' meals are more delicious, and McDonald's/KFC is more delicious. Even if the mother's meal is delicious, it will be difficult to swallow.

Of course, as adults, we need to be responsible for our relationships and marriages, and there will be more legal and moral bottom lines that "forbid" us not to "eat other people's meals" like children. But actively adding more interest to sex life and maintaining a better sense of freshness is also an "obligation" for adults.

It is somewhat deplorable to rely solely on the law to "restrict" marital fidelity.

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How to choose your "sex toy"

So, how do girls choose sex toys, and what should they pay attention to when choosing the first toy?

First of all, please choose a regular product, such as IFONNX. Don't buy inferior products for cheap, avoid unnecessary injuries.

Secondly, it is not recommended to buy products that are too expensive, too large, and too strange for the first time. Such toys will not only increase the risk and difficulty of first use, cause injury, but also easily give you a bad impression of sex toys.

At the same time, adding topical lubricant to sex toys can not only make you more enjoyable yourself, but it can also make you more comfortable and happier in your interactions with your partner.

Be careful not to attempt to substitute "weird stuff" for regular sex toys. Trust me! Those cucumbers, beer bottles, light bulbs, eels... these strange things on the Internet are prone to various risks.

Finally, based on years of experience, I recommend some sex toys worth buying to women.

  1. Learn sex toys by egg vibrators

For women trying sex toys for the first time, or even for girls who have never had sex, the mini-cute egg vibrator is the best choice, the pleasure of not needing to go directly into the vagina can make it easier for us.

In the choice of egg vibrators, the elegant and cute Offe can definitely capture your heart. The material is skin-friendly and soft, which can prevent allergies. IP67 waterproof design allows you to play even in the bathroom. Low noise and cute appearance, even if you live with your parents, you can use it with confidence, and it will not be embarrassing to be discovered. It is lighter and more practical than traditional vibrating eggs, and it is really the best choice for beginners to start with. Of course, if you want to experience more exciting gameplay, a remote-controlled egg vibrator will be more helpful to you.

  1. Orgasm with a vibrator

Vibrators are more suitable for ladies who already have some sexual experience and enjoy the pleasure of penetration. It has two types that can stimulate the clitoris and those that cannot stimulate the clitoris. Although scientific research shows that most women do not need to penetrate the vagina to achieve orgasm, there are still many girls who like to "push the pleasure".

The vibrator's elegant shape is practical and good-looking compared to the overly realistic dildo that is traditionally shaped. Vibrators seem to provide a more realistic "interactive feeling" than just stimulating the clitoris.

For toys that need to go deeper into our body, the issue of material needs to be paid more attention. Silicone without any smell will be a good choice, but if some inexperienced ladies have purchased toys of uncertain material, please still Put on a condom and play! Safety and health come first.

  1. Explore the gameplay of the massager

A clitoral vibrator is an advanced sex toy with infinite possibilities. It can not only open up more ways to play, experience the fun of orgasm, but also… turn into a "massager" after working out to soothe sore muscles, haha.

I really can't help but want to recommend IFONNX Envi, the very powerful women vibrator, which is not only beautifully designed, but also more feminine in shape, user-friendly hands-free design, and makes the sexual experience happier. It is indeed a very good sex toy of its kind.

Ok~ After reading this, I hope readers can return to the topic, so that everyone can understand that these love toys themselves are not "good or bad", and it may be our relationship itself that causes problems and estrangements. The harmony of sex life often hides other problems in life.

Sincere communication and sharing each other's happiness and desires can make the intimate relationship more stable and experience a sweeter sex life!

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