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How to convince my partner to play sex toys with me?

With the development of sexual concepts, many people do not oppose couples playing sex toys, but most people support couples playing it, and are reluctant to use sex toys with couples. Even for the fun of sex games, they're just perfunctory exploration of sex toys. Curiosity lasts only a few minutes and will keep them aside. Compared to sex toys, they prefer to use their own charm to make sex more harmonious.

Maybe you are also facing the same problem, your boyfriend resists using love toys and you don't know what to do. For men, it may be that they want their girlfriends to hide their toys so that they won't be seen by them. There are also some people who don't want to use them, but only want their girlfriends to use them. There's even a guy who doesn't want his girlfriend to use toys at all because he feels like he's being replaced by a sex toy.

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These problems come from various psychological effects, such as men's perception that sexual pleasure is unimportant to women, they do not accept that women obtain sexual pleasure through means other than men themselves, they regard vibrators as a third person, and they worry about themselves It's not as good as vibrators, or it's just plain, there is less interest in sex life, and they don't want to explore sex, etc. These need to be solved through long communication.

When you face these problems, you should also seriously discuss with your boyfriend first, why is it, just because it is not easy? Or mentally uncomfortable? You can find a day when both of you are calm and talk about this matter. First solve the root cause of the problem, or at least temporarily find it out, and look directly at the existence of the problem. Even if you can't solve it temporarily, you will know each other better, and then discuss it. It, these problems will be easier to solve. You should make him understand that sex toys are part of sex, and that developing more play will bring you closer to each other. 

When you communicate, not only ask him what he thinks, but you also need to talk frankly with your boyfriend about your sexual attitudes and ideas, including what kind of sexual experience you hope to have, so that he can get to know you better, and then to decide whether to cooperate with you.

At the same time, you can turn passive into active in your own way. During sex with a man, you can increase the sexual pleasure by actively using an egg vibrator or clitoral vibrator to stimulate the man. Men generally don't completely resist using sex toys, but when women use sex toys, men feel disengaged. This behavior of not participating affects their own sexual experience, neither can they experience different happiness from toys, and even find that women's happiness is not caused by themselves but by sex toys.

So, you might as well be bold and take the initiative to stimulate him with toys. In fact, there are many places on the male body that can be stimulated by vibration, such as around the nipple/anus, and the perineum. Men may have new experiences. More importantly, In the process, let him know that you care about him and hope to help him open the door to a new world. Toys are just tools, and your mutual affection cannot be replaced by toys.

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Another way is to consider using the toy yourself in front of him first. As a performance, you can match it with sexy lingerie, and the visual effect will be full. As a small dessert before two people have sex together, it will also bring a different feeling.

However, before you can turn passive into active in a way, you must first reach an agreement: the other party does not resist using it, but just feels confused. If you find that the other party has a lot of psychological resistance after chatting, actively stimulating men may bring about a bad outcome. 

Then we can start with choosing the right toy. Use gentler ways to arouse the other person's interest.

Toys aren't just for women. It may be difficult for him to start using female toys as soon as he comes up. You can choose something that is more suitable for two people to use together, such as a quill to let him draw on you, or a blindfold to increase the mystery of each other. Use these small toys first to open up the situation, so that he can accept that the toys exist in intimacy life, and then try some more fun sex toys like remote control egg vibrators.

We can even consider using a toy specially designed for men such as an airplane cup, so that the other party can experience what it is like to let you help him use a male toy. Also let him know that you don't feel like the airplane cup has taken your place.

Of course, it does not rule out that no matter how hard you try, the other party is just unwilling to accept the use of toys together in sex, so what should we do? In fact, in addition to the principle of avoiding pregnancy, which cannot be compromised, there are too many places in sexual life that need to be communicated and compromised.

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Just like eating, the other party is unwilling to eat coriander, and at most can only accept coriander soaked in hot pot. You have tried various methods and choose various varieties of coriander, but the other party just doesn’t like it. Maybe he can just for your feelings Take a few bites, but you can feel the other person's reluctance and won't be happy.

At this time, perhaps we can also think about whether the other party has the freedom not to eat coriander? Forcing him to eat, or eating one's own, which would be happier? Or you can change someone who can eat coriander together, but maybe that person doesn't like eating mushrooms that you also love.

As for how important coriander is, only you know.

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